"KITCHEN BOY"

Yes, "Kitchen Boy". Sounds strange and yet to me it makes me laugh. (More at www.CoachingForWidows.com)

Here is how it all started. Several years ago I used to present and facilitate leadership training programs at very big corporate conferences and my dear husband would be "kitchen boy". It was a term given by him as he laughed about it all. Rory would sit in the kitchen on a chair and God bless him, he would be my student and listen and participate. I would go on and on...Sometimes the programs I would train could go up to 2 and 1/2 days in length. That is a great deal of time to be "kitchen boy"!

Recently, I found myself venturing into this work again and into preparing for yet another big training event. It had been a few years since I had done this kind of work and as I began my preparation process, I once again realized, "where is KITCHEN BOY?" Again, it came through just how much I missed my husband and how much he must have really loved me to do this! More, I smile and I laughed. I felt such a lightness in all of it. I won't lie, there is other heavy stuff too, but not as much. There is such joy and remembrance. Now I can't say preparing for these things and having your husband be "kitchen boy" is like a night out at a comedy show, but it its own way, it sure was fun.

It is so good to be able to love. I realize all the time how much Rory loved me (how much I loved him) and how lucky I was to have had 10 amazing years of marriage and a beautiful son. Now, for me, and for all of us...it comes down to love. Loving ourselves, first and foremost. I mean really loving ourselves. For I believe it is in this place of self-love we can heal, grieve, and be happy and fulfilled once again.

What is one thing that you, yes you, reading this do to take a step forward? To step away from self doubt and own what a beautiful and loving person you are and are becoming more and more with each passing day...

Warmly,
Colleen http://www.coachingforwidows.com/