It is a New Year and Blessings

Hello Ladies, (More at www.CoachingForWidows.com)


It has been a bit since I last posted. Maybe like you, the holiday season was eventful and time was occupied with so many things. There was a lot of "doing" and yes there was a lot of "being", reflecting on old memories and embracing new memories. Spending quality time with my son and family.

There are some things that always bring memories of my husband racing to the forefront. One that really hits me are Christmas ornaments. Putting them on the tree this year (remembering when / where we got them, conversations we had about them, past Christmas experiences etc.) made me feel warm and comforted. This past weekend I boxed up the ornaments and placed them away in storage. That always feels a bit sad for me and then I think about how happy I will be to see them again next year (knowing they are safely and lovingly stored till then.)

Today, I checked the mail and there was a letter addressed to my late husband, Rory. Still, on a rare occasion I receive his name addressed on mail. It was from the USGA, which he loved. Anyway, I took a deep breath or two, and wrote "deceased" and "please remove from mailing list". It still feels very very sad in my gut to write this and place in my mail box.

Then, a few moments later, I hear my 6 year old son, having a ball playing with his new "trash talking basketball hoop game". He and I set the game up today and I recorded "Ryan Is Awesome" and "Ryan Scores". So, everytime he shoots (which he has been doing non stop and only breaking for water!) he hears this positive reinforcement. What a blessing to have this beautiful child and how grateful I am for him, his joy, his health.

Another thing I am grateful for is that I accomplished a goal I set for myself in '07. I took this past year to transition from a corporate leader in business to starting my own coaching / training business. One important goal was to become a professionally certified coach. Which I accomplished! It took a good deal of commitment and work and I am proud of achieving this milestone. My coaching website for widows will go "live" soon and I believe there is much good I can do in coaching other widows who wish to create meaningful and passionate lives, even after such a tragic event as losing one' s spouse. I want so much for all of us!

Here is to a great '08, where we have gratitude for what we do have and love ourselves enough to "be with" our grief, "move in and through it" and find promise for each new day!

Warmly,
Colleen http://www.coachingforwidows.com/