Yes, "Kitchen Boy". Sounds strange and yet to me it makes me laugh. (More at www.CoachingForWidows.com)
Here is how it all started. Several years ago I used to present and facilitate leadership training programs at very big corporate conferences and my dear husband would be "kitchen boy". It was a term given by him as he laughed about it all. Rory would sit in the kitchen on a chair and God bless him, he would be my student and listen and participate. I would go on and on...Sometimes the programs I would train could go up to 2 and 1/2 days in length. That is a great deal of time to be "kitchen boy"!
Recently, I found myself venturing into this work again and into preparing for yet another big training event. It had been a few years since I had done this kind of work and as I began my preparation process, I once again realized, "where is KITCHEN BOY?" Again, it came through just how much I missed my husband and how much he must have really loved me to do this! More, I smile and I laughed. I felt such a lightness in all of it. I won't lie, there is other heavy stuff too, but not as much. There is such joy and remembrance. Now I can't say preparing for these things and having your husband be "kitchen boy" is like a night out at a comedy show, but it its own way, it sure was fun.
It is so good to be able to love. I realize all the time how much Rory loved me (how much I loved him) and how lucky I was to have had 10 amazing years of marriage and a beautiful son. Now, for me, and for all of us...it comes down to love. Loving ourselves, first and foremost. I mean really loving ourselves. For I believe it is in this place of self-love we can heal, grieve, and be happy and fulfilled once again.
What is one thing that you, yes you, reading this do to take a step forward? To step away from self doubt and own what a beautiful and loving person you are and are becoming more and more with each passing day...
Warmly,
Colleen http://www.coachingforwidows.com/
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We are so rich when we have or have had love in our lives. And, I agree that love of self expands outward in all we do. I could visualize the "kitchen boy" routine and appreciate you sharing those moments. Time seems to fly these days, and if we aren't careful, we miss those precious moments in the now which give us joy and carry us tomorrow.
Yes, I agree that time does seem to fly and if we aren't careful we do miss those precious moments. There is so much in being present, really present in each moment.
Thanks for reaching out and here's to you and each of us!
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